Dear Female Porn Addicts

Dear Female Pornography Addicts,

I wanted to write to you as a counselor, an ally, and one of you. So often we are the forgotten ones. People tend to look at porn and sex addictions as a male problem. People tend to think you can’t be addicted to porn or sex. Those people are wrong.

I’m writing this because I wanted to say that you are not alone. I have come across several people in either real life, recovery sites, and on blogs who felt this way. I felt that way for years. I thought that I was just abnormal. Now I know the truth. This addiction doesn’t care who you are and what you look like. I wanted to say to you some things that I wanted someone to say to me.

You are not broken. You are not defined by this addiction. You can overcome. I know it can be hard to ask for help. I know some of you may feel guilt and shame. Do not let that stop you from moving forward with your life.

Honestly, I don’t have much to say. I had nothing planned when I started typing this. I really just wanted to reach out and let you know there is someone who can relate to you. I never had anyone to talk about this with until I started writing my first blog, six or seven years ago.

I have had issues accepting and giving love. Love and intimacy issues seem to be a common theme in these addictions. If you do struggle with this too I want to tell you that you are loved. You are worth loving. I have hated myself because of my addiction. I hope you don’t. I hope you see beyond that.

Be a fighter. Fight for yourself. Fight for love. You are a strong and beautiful woman. This part of your life has made you stronger and shaped who you are. It’s okay to hate the addiction, but don’t hate yourself in the process.

As someone still in early recovery, I know there will be hard days. I also know you are capable of more than you think. I thought you should know that.

Truly,

A recovering female porn addict

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